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JANAY RICE-I STAND WITH YOU!

A snippet of Abuse

  • His favorite thing to do was hold me down and spit in my eyes, ears and my mouth.
  • His next favorite thing to do was soap his face up and hold me down and let the soap drip from his face into my eyes.
  • He beat me everywhere clothes would cover, so the world couldn’t see.
  • When that wasn’t enough, he snuck me the date rape drug.
  • First, HE raped me. When he got up, he stood back and watched as his friend raped me.
  • He stood in the doorway and watched the whole thing. I was 17 years-old. All to repay a debt he owed.
  • He said, “I asked for it.” He blamed me.
  • He said, “I know you have been secretly lusting after my friends.”
  • He said, “I watched the whole thing from the doorway and you looked and sounded like you were really enjoying it, I heard you moaning!” The room was pitch black except for the light in the crack of the doorway. It’s all I could see and his evil glare.
  • He said, “It didn’t look like you were fighting him off to me!”
  • He said, “It kinda looked like you were enjoying it.
  •  I was on a bare floor, paralyzed, how much fighting could I do? I couldn’t scream, my screams where muffled by a paralyzed moan. He knew I was not sexually active at the time and I was not on birth control. Neither of them wore condoms when they raped me.

When I finally woke up from the biggest sleep of my life, I realized that it was me that was allowing ME to be in the situation I was in; not anyone else. So, I took my child and I ran. I ran and I never looked back. We have the power as women to be as strong as we want to be. We have the ability to be as powerful as we want to be. We can stand, we are stronger when we stand together. We should show Janay love and not hate and criticism.

What is so disturbing about this situation, is yes, people are in uproar over the incident with Janay and Ray Rice. However, it feels like a lot of that energy is coming from a negative place. Not from a truly loving and concerned place. It’s more of a “he’s an animal for attacking her and she’s a dumb ass idiot for staying.” Or, she hit him too so they both deserve each other.

You can’t help anyone by attacking them. How do you think you are helping this family by attacking them? You are no better than them. When you attack someone, you are just as bad of a victimizer as they are.

Open your hearts, both Janay and Ray are human beings. They have an tiny and innocent child in their care that needs to be provided for.

What is the world’s solution, I know let’s punish Ray by taking away all of his income, and let’s punish Janay by taking away all of his income. Do you even care if a tiny poor innocent child will suffer? It’s easy to justify our actions by saying that’s too bad, he deserves it and she deserves it, because they got in a fight.

Let me ask you something, what is your point? What are you trying to accomplish with your remarks about this couple? Are you trying to cause them more damage to punish them? Or do you really care about them as human beings?

I think it’s coming from a place of jealousy. You are already mad that Ray is making all that money, another no good black disgusting athlete raking in millions of dollars. Let’s punish him and take it all away, because he didn’t deserve it in the first place.

I head a host of the view bring up that Ray Rice we were paying Ray Rice millions. That is what this is really about. It has nothing to do with being concerned for Janay. It’s all about making sure he doesn’t get another dime of those millions he was making. It doesn’t matter who is damaged in the process, as long as he is not getting that money.

If it wasn’t, why are people making comments about the money he is making? First of all, since when are football players paid millions to be the most upright citizens? They are paid millions to go out on the field and be brutal slaves to the fans. It doesn’t have a darn thing to do with their personal lives. It’s all about who can win a game and who can’t.

We can make a lot of assumptions about the nature of Janay’s and Ray’s relationship, but we really don’t know the entire dynamic of their relationship. We are criminalizing Ray Rice for a reaction he had to someone charging him in a small and confined space.

On the video we saw both Janay and Ray hit each other. Just because one person hits the other person harder than the other person does not nullify the abuse on the parts of both people. They both hit each other and Janay charged Ray with what looked like anger and fury on the elevator.

Obviously, Ray has a problem, because he hit Janay, he needs help as well. But, Janay also hit Ray. They both need help.

Let’s stand together and help each other and not tear each other down. Janay Rice, I Stand With You! Calling all women and men who have been abused before, let’s show Janay Rice that we stand together to end domestic violence, no matter if it is a woman or a man being abused.

Even if Janay was not totally innocent in this situation that occurred on the elevator, it stands as a reminder of the nature and rate of domestic violence in this country.

Guilty or not guilty, innocent or not, it doesn’t negate the fact that there is a huge problem with domestic violence against both men and women in this country.

That is one of the biggest issues in this situation. We watched them both hit each other. Just by way of human nature, Ray is a man and he hit her harder, so therefore he is guiltier. Then on the other side of that equation, Janay stayed with him, married him and they had a child together. Therefore, she is an idiot.

I am stating that Janay I Stand With You, not as a submission that I feel she is 100 percent blameless, but as a reminder that there is a need for more education on domestic violence. Statistically, women are abundantly victimized more than men. So, there is a great need to remind women that there is help available for them and they don’t have to stay in those abusive relationships. This is also a reminder to men that they don’t have to stay in these abusive relationships.

BY MAKING AN EXAMPLE OF RAY RICE AND TAKING AWAY ALL OF HIS MONEY AND JANAY FEELING LIKE SHE IS THE TOTAL BLAME FOR IT, OR EVEN PARTIAL BLAME FOR IT, DOES NOTHING LESS THAN ENCOURAGE ALL WOMEN WHO ARE IN SIMILAR SITUATIONS TO  KEEP THEIR MOUTHS SHUT. THEY WILL NEVER WANT TO TELL NOW!!!!!!!

YOU CANNOT LUMP ALL CASES OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE OR ABUSE IN THE SAME CATEGORY. THERE ARE PLENTY OF CASES OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE WHERE THE WOMAN VIOLENTLY ATTACKS THE MAN AND HE FIGHTS BACK IN SELF DEFENSE AND HE IS CONSIDERED THE AGRESSOR.

THERE ARE CASES OF DOMESTIC ABUSE WHEN A MAN IS THE SOLE AGGRESSOR AND DOMINATES THE WOMAN. THERE ARE CASES WHERE A WOMAN IS THE SOLE AGGRESSOR AND WILL DOMINATE THE MAN. THEN THERE ARE CASES WHERE THE TWO ARE ACTIVELY ENGAGED IN BATTLE.

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